tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post5420823047541252668..comments2023-10-14T07:53:38.153-06:00Comments on Greetings from Nowhere, NM: Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11900519911100476545noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-68612643469904627752011-03-19T11:59:25.341-06:002011-03-19T11:59:25.341-06:00I'm really sad that I've never experienced...I'm really sad that I've never experienced the BFP, but I can't bear the thought of finally getting there just to start over. :( I know I would if I had to, but I"m trying not to even think those thoughts yet.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10989486641078905810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-37867142148956584522011-03-08T16:45:18.124-07:002011-03-08T16:45:18.124-07:00Wow...that's a really tough question. There ar...Wow...that's a really tough question. There are positives and negatives to miscarriages. The positive is that you know you can get pregnant, the negative is that you will never feel the same way again when you do finally become pregnant with a healthy baby. It destroys your innocence in a way. But trying for so long and never getting a BFP would also be devestating and would make you question if your body is capable of conceiving in the first place.<br /><br />I don't know..but very different, but both so hard.A m a n d ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15522409790762503985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-8633429443611164882011-03-08T03:55:49.372-07:002011-03-08T03:55:49.372-07:00I can't say really since I haven't been pr...I can't say really since I haven't been pregnant at all. But when reading this story among with others I think I would rather be without that experience. <br /><br />This is a powerful and very sad story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-42822703147238837342011-03-07T17:53:01.128-07:002011-03-07T17:53:01.128-07:00I have a friend who had a miscarriage at 17 weeks....I have a friend who had a miscarriage at 17 weeks. I have been struggling with infertility for 3 years.<br /><br />A little over a year ago she told me that she had it worse because she knew what she was missing. I didn't disagree.<br /><br />A month later, she announced her pregnancy. She now has a five month old; I still have nothing.<br /><br />I think the person who has it worse is the one left with empty arms.Dawnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-13567624512789698492011-03-07T17:18:42.378-07:002011-03-07T17:18:42.378-07:00Well after having 2 miscarriages and 1 ectopic I c...Well after having 2 miscarriages and 1 ectopic I can tell you that it is very painful and it also makes every time you get pregnant a very anxious experience. On the other hand, I think not being able to get pregnant is also very painful and hard. So much pain with all different types of IF.Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07473074415260386542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-42457499018738526422011-03-07T14:52:33.872-07:002011-03-07T14:52:33.872-07:00Wow, what a powerful post. Thanks for sharing.
I...Wow, what a powerful post. Thanks for sharing. <br /><br />I've wondered about the "which is worse" scenario myself. I'm thankful I've never had to suffer the pain of a m/c... but at the same point, I'm petrified it's only b/c my body CANNOT get pregnant. I hope hope hope that I'll finally see those two lines someday, and never have to be able to empathize with those who have miscarried. <br /><br />Tough stuff...Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1831116088961427499.post-83844031519605118732011-03-07T14:49:33.129-07:002011-03-07T14:49:33.129-07:00Sadly, I know a number of women (online) who have ...Sadly, I know a number of women (online) who have TTC unsuccessfully for years, only to miscarry when finally pregnant.<br /><br />It's really hard for me to say whether it's worse to never get pregnant than to miscarry. Each has its own special brand of grief. <br /><br />In nearly 3 years of TTC, I have had one very early miscarriage, a "chemical pregnancy" at 5 weeks. It was upsetting, but at the time we thought "At least we know we can get pregnant." I don't think that thought would've reassured me much had I been farther along and had time to get attached to the pregnancy.<br /><br />It has now been 17 months since that miscarriage without a single BFP. I still feel a sense of loss about my inability to conceive often. It is less concrete than the feelings I had about my miscarriage but difficult nonetheless.<br /><br />P.S. I grew up in southern NM and think I have figured out which town you live in. ;-)Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.com